1:1 coaching call with Hava to get all your questions answered, reassurance about normal infant sleep and the confidence you need to thrive
Investment for Empower Hour: $89
This is for you if…
You’re looking for some reassurance and encouragement with your sleep situation, and confidence in understanding your little one’s sleep.
You’re looking for a low-prep, easily accessible option for sleep support.
Nothing major going on and your child is fairly content, but you’d like some expert advice on sleep and learn some tips to meet your family’s sleep goals.
You’re looking to make some tweaks and adjustments to sleep or direction to get on the right track.
Investment for Empower Hour: $89
What’s included in Empower Hour
1 month FREE in the Flourishing Sleep Membership, the ultimate sleep resource for families.
60 minute coaching call with Hava to answer your questions and discuss strategies to benefit
The recording of the call sent to you so can listen back when you need to.
Any additional hand outs or resources that pertain to your situation.** Does not include a comprehensive sleep assessment, sleep plan or follow up support.**
Investment for Empower Hour: $89
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What ages of children do you work with?
I work with families who have children from newborn to age 4. If you’re unsure about what support package best suits your child’s developmental stage and goals, book a free sleep consultation.
How soon can you start?
Today! Now! As soon as you enroll you can begin your intake forms (if applicable) and schedule your call!
What sleep challenges can you help me with?
Every family has unique goals and challenges, so if you don’t see your specific challenge here, that doesn’t mean I can’t help!
Book a free sleep consultation, and we can chat about your goals, challenges, and what sleep support would include.
I can support your family with:
✔ Education about normal infant and toddler sleep and realistic expectations
✔ Difficulty falling asleep and staying asleep
✔ Extended night wakings
✔ Feeling overwhelmed with sleep
✔ Parental exhaustion
✔ Frequent night waking
✔ Fighting sleep
✔ Challenging naps
✔ Nap transitions
✔ Split nights (awake for extended periods in the middle of the night)
✔ False starts (wakes 45 minutes after bedtime or multiple times in the first 2-4 hours of the night)
✔ Early morning rises (waking for the day before 6 AM or earlier than you’d like)
✔ Changing sleep associations/soothing strategies
✔ Sleep space transitions (moving to their own room, or from bedsharing/contact napping to solo sleep)
✔ Childcare transitions
✔ Bedtime battles
✔ Involving your partner or support person in sleep routines
✔ Night weaning after 12 months
Do you use traditional sleep training?
No, I do not use sleep training in my approach to sleep.
Sleep training takes a behavior-based approach to sleep, changing how a baby communicates their needs to their caregiver instead of changing sleep itself. This includes full extinction, “cry it out,” timed or incremental soothing, and “parent present” methods like the chair method or pick up/put down.
When I support families to better sleep through this membership, it doesn’t include any methods that limit how a parent responds to their child’s cries, either in increments or by having the caregiver respond in only specific ways.
Instead, we take a completely holistic perspective of sleep, assessing all aspects that may impact your child’s sleep challenges to address the root cause and meet your goals.
✔ Sleep environment
✔ Routines and rhythms
✔ Day and nighttime sleep balance
✔ Feeding and nutrition
✔ Underlying medical concerns
✔ Sleep Science
✔ Emotional wellbeing
✔ Family dynamics and relationships
✔ And more!
Along with developmentally appropriate expectations and strategies to support your well-being as a parent. I support you to find the root cause and optimize sleep through responsive parenting and sleep science, with the ultimate goal of you feeling empowered and confident in supporting your baby to their best sleep.
I place immense value in you trusting your instincts and tuning into your unique child, meeting their needs, resulting in sleep solutions that you can feel good about. And in this way, you will have real, lasting results, not only with sleep but in your parenting journey as a whole.
Why don't you use traditional sleep training?
In short, I believe there is a better way to improve sleep for the family, one that honours a child’s emotional and physical needs and supports a child’s attachment needs. Sleep is not a skill that can be taught; it is a biological function. No sleep training method truly teaches sleep, connecting sleep cycles or self-soothing – it merely changes how a baby communicates with their caregivers.
Sleep is a vulnerable state for all humans, and even more so for our babies. It’s crucial that children go to sleep from a place of calm and feeling connected to you, not out of defensiveness from being left alone. Separation is one of our children’s most wounding experiences; it is only through connection and attachment that true independence can develop. Sleep training methods are designed to use separation and lack of parental response to change sleep behaviour, at the risk of a baby’s emotional needs being unmet.
Sleep training goes against your parental instincts. It never feels good to hear our little ones cry or be upset, and they depend on us to provide them calm, safety and security in their world. They rely on us to respond to them and to meet their needs. As caregivers, we are biologically hardwired to feel activated when we hear our little ones crying for us. Even while we are making changes, supporting our children’s emotions is a crucial part of their emotional and psychological development.
Babies are designed to wake at night and communicate their needs to their caregivers to have them met. It is vital that they do so and that they can trust us to respond! Unfortunately, sleep training only teaches a child that their cries will be ignored, that we won’t come when they call and leave their underlying needs unmet.
We have significant research that shows that traditional sleep training does not result in a baby who wakes less frequently or who has better sleep quality – instead, it merely changes how the baby communicates to their caregiver when they do wake.
I believe that babies need responsive, nurturing care both day and night and that there is a way to maximize a parent’s rest while honouring a baby’s emotional and physical needs. Improving sleep for the family in a way that understands biological norms, is aligned with realistic expectations, and addresses the root of sleep disruptions.
How is your approach different than sleep training?
Instead of merely focusing on sleep behavior, I take a truly holistic perspective of sleep and assess all factors influencing sleep to support your family’s rest.
All strategies and plans are founded in responsive, attachment-focused methods, designed to get to the root of sleep challenges and give you the tools you need to make changes that align with your child and values.
Remember, you are the expert on your baby. My job is to guide you, offer suggestions and strategies, shine a light on any areas of concern, recommend solutions based on my experience, encourage emotional connections, build stronger relationships, and support you along the way.
My approach is designed with developmentally appropriate expectations and the latest research in neuroscience, brain development, and attachment. There are no generic or arbitrary rules or guidelines but instead are tailored to your unique family.
What does the sleep assesment include?
Both the Confidence & Coaching and Nurturing & Guidance sleep support packages include a comprehensive intake form you fill out before our first call. In this sleep assessment, I get a complete picture of all the factors influencing sleep, understand your unique family, and can best provide suggestions and strategies that honor your individual family that will support your goals.
✔ Family lifestyle
✔ Your wellbeing
✔ Birth experience
✔ Sleep environment
✔ Nutrition and feeding, including one day of feeding logs
✔ Screening for underlying medical conditions that may be impacting sleep quality
✔ Soothing strategies
✔ Daytime stimulation
✔ 3-day sleep log so I can understand current sleep rhythms and your child’s unique sleep needs.
Are sleep plans custom?
Yes, entirely custom to your goals and your family. Your sleep plan is delivered following our first call together so that we can first talk about what may work best for your family and aligns with your goals. It is not a generic 10-step program; its purpose is that you have a clear resource with suggestions to guide you forward, not a strict plan you must adhere to.
The sleep plan will reflect everything that we discuss on the call, laid out in a way that is easily implementable as you find beneficial. I provide suggestions, and you decide the right fit for your family and child. There are no generic solutions or one-size-fits-all solutions!
Your little one is entirely unique, and so is every family! Therefore, the strategies need to be ones that you can feel good about and that work for your little one, as unique as they are. You know your baby best, and there is no one path to better sleep and well-being.
Do you teach a baby to self soothe?
The concept that babies can learn how to “self-soothe” by being left to cry or when separated from their caregiver is a complete myth. Babies are neurologically incapable of self-soothing or calming themselves from a state of stress without the support of a caregiver.
True self-soothing is an ability that babies learn through first BEING soothed.
That is just how brain development works.
The foundation of this ability is the baby’s experiences of their caregiver’s timely, sensitive, consistent and appropriate responses to their distress (also the basis for a secure attachment). They learn to self-soothe when they learn to trust that you are there to help them whenever they need you and that you can read their cues and understand their communication.
We bring our calm to meet our children when they are stressed or upset. By meeting our children with calm, soothing, responsive care, we support their nervous system to calm. We aid them in this process, building connections in their brain so they can regulate themselves effectively in the future. It happens through the developmental process, not as a skill they can be taught.
Children learn how to regulate their emotions by borrowing the mature adult brain and being provided coregulation and support. From this foundation of first BEING soothed and having regulation modelled to them, children can learn how to do it themselves when their brain develops the capability to do so. After 1000s of experiences of being soothed, their brain slowly gains these skills.
When a baby is in a state of stress, if they call for you, they need you to respond, and by having this understanding, we can do so confidently, knowing that we are setting our children up for their best chance at effective future regulation.
Will this help my baby fall asleep independently?
It is a reality that most babies (and even toddlers!) need some level of parental support to fall asleep. However, suppose there are certain aspects around soothing strategies that aren’t sustainable for you. In that case, I absolutely encourage you to make changes around those aspects while still finding a way to support your child’s need for your presence to feel calm and safe as they enter sleep.
For example, it takes a long time for your child to fall asleep, or the support they prefer is making you uncomfortable or causing pain (for example, bouncing on a yoga ball hurts your back). You can change elements that no longer serve your family while meeting their need for your support in ways that work for you both.
When we support our children’s sleep, we build lifelong sleep health by:
✔ Lending our adult brain, so infants enter sleep in a rest and digest the parasympathetic state of their nervous system
✔ Create an association between sleep and a feeling of safety and comfort
✔ Facilitate brain waves in sleep that are more restorative
✔ Influence less night waking
✔ Help them go to sleep faster
✔ Influence their childhood, adolescent, and adult sleep to be more consolidated, better quality, and reduced insomnia
Depending on your baby’s temperament, some babies need more support to fall asleep while others prefer more space. If your baby communicates that they need your support, that’s simultaneously normal, expected, AND challenging.
Due to their immature nervous system, babies often need the soothing presence of an adult, and this isn’t something we can necessarily change without consequence. Our presence makes all the difference in their developing brain, supporting their lifelong mental wellness with nurturing care and support. Nurture is what builds the brain towards resilience and builds sleep health.
Do you make any guarantees about how my baby will sleep after working with you?
Unlike traditional sleep training, I will never make any wild claims like your baby will sleep 12 hours without calling for you in 12 days or anything else. (many of these claims are for marketing purposes and not reality anyway!)
Your baby is unique, and maintaining developmentally appropriate expectations while working on improving sleep is crucial – when children have needs to be met, they need to be able to trust us to respond and meet those needs. Babies and toddlers are whole humans with complex needs, much of which is out of our complete control.
Making guarantees about another human merely sets parents up for unrealistic expectations. I do guarantee that you will walk away feeling confident about working towards your sleep goals in a way that aligns with your values, so you will be able to stress less and get the rest you need.